Disordered or healthy? Here are a couple of questions you can use to help you figure if motivation for eating/exercising is disordered or healthy. <3
I’m packing up (or rather, I should be packing up) for a couple days’ camping trip to Cascadia on the Santiam River. I’ll take a boatload of pictures; you can expect a recap later this week!
But before I leave, I wanted to stop by and share a couple of questions I ask myself when I can’t figure out if my motivation for eating/exercise is disordered or healthy.
Sometimes, it’s obvious. You choose a kale salad because it sounds delicious and it’s hot out and your body is craving greens. Nourishment. That’s healthy. You choose a kale salad even thought you know the only thing that will satisfy you is a burger because you had a cupcake at that birthday party last night and you slept through your alarm and didn’t have time to go for a run. Punishment. That’s disordered.
But other times, it’s not so obvious. The other day, I was deciding between leftover homemade pizza and a salad for lunch. (PSA: leftover homemade pizza is not inherently more healthy than a salad.) I chose to make a salad because it sounded like what I wanted (annnnnd we had leftover roasted sweet potatoes, which I ADORE in a salad). After said salad had been made and consumed, I started to second guess my decision.
Did I choose a salad because I felt scared/anxious/fearful of eating pizza? Am I going against my all-foods-fit belief? Did I make that choice because I know I’m going on vacation soon and will probably eat my fill of blueberry chocolate chip cookies?
You know how it goes. So here are a couple of questions I like to ask myself when I’m not sure what my motivation is.
Care or control? Am I making this decision out of care for myself and my body or out of a place of trying to control my body?
Will I be okay if I make the opposite choice? Example: I decide to have a salad. I ask myself, “Would I be okay if I had the pizza?” Not just physically okay, but mentally and emotionally okay. If the answer is yes, great. Doesn’t mean I have to have pizza, but it means I’m making a choice from a healthy mindset. If the answer is no, I need to take a closer look at my relationship with that particular food. One more example: If I decide to go the gym, I ask myself, “Would I be okay if I didn’t work out today?” If yes, great. If no, I need to evaluate my relationship with exercise.
Lastly, love or fear? Am I making this choice out of a place of love or a place of fear? This is kind of the same as the care or control question, but it can be helpful to frame it this way. And it can apply to any decision, not just those surrounding food and exercise.
I hope those are helpful for the times when you can’t decide if your motivation is disordered or healthy. Because it’s not always clear-cut or simple.
And I say that as a generally pretty decisive person. I am an ENFJ, after all. For all you MBTI fans, J vs P being 90/10. Furrrr realz. Although–tangent alert–my sunglasses broke and I bought a new pair yesterday and I will let you know that it took me forever and a year to decide between two pairs. I did decide eventually (you know, after forever and a year), and I’m pleased with my decision.
Love to ya! I’ll be back soon with lots of camping eats and happenings! And you can expect to see those sunglasses too!
P.S. I’d love to hear from you! Tell me…
Do you ever feel unsure about your motivation behind food/movement choices? What do you do to uncover what’s going on?
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